Imagine for a moment, a family of the 1940s who live in a simple flat located in an industrial city of Atlantic Canada. The father is a seasonally employed dock worker, a devoted Catholic but also a committed alcoholic. He lost two very close relatives before he was three years of age and spent the rest of his life trying to figure out why it had happened to him. His mother raised her four boys on her own, by selling life insurance door-to-door. This mother was also a converted Anglican whose father was run out of the city for unnamed illegal activities. He then fled to the United States only to return for his own funeral many years later. This left her mother to raise her and her three siblings by herself. She sent her three boys off to war, only to have her baby boy die when a U2 Rocket hit his truck in the English countryside.
The family living in the flat already had three young toddlers when the fourth boy was born. The new family member was to be the sickly one, a continual emotional and financial burden to his already struggling family. As time passed, the family expanded with another boy and four girls, creating their own baseball team of nine. At several points during childhood, the grandmother moved in with her daughter in order to help take care and raise this large brood.
This is the story of my family. I was that fourth sickly boy who would watch his four sisters and four brothers grow strong and healthy. I developed a variety of handicapping diseases including cow pox (as the story goes I almost died), asthma, eczema and much later, angina. I grew up believing that I was the imperfect runt of the litter and truly thought for a while I would not live past 21 years old. Now I have tripled that age exactly, and so at the age of 63, I have the privilege to sit here and share my story.
Being sick all the time made me miss school frequently; which worked out well for me as I didn’t like school anyway. I am not sure that many kids did back then. I had two good reasons though: asthma and eczema, what I considered as my two best friends. I struggled in school, performing marginally, failing grade 7, and “not working to my potential.” On the other hand, my illnesses gave me extra time with my mother. I have fond memories of being at home with my Mom while my siblings were at school. However, I also have not so fond memories of being up late at night alone, fighting for every breath or scratching my limbs until they bled.
A Psychologist in the Making
I studied the major approaches in psychology at the exclusion of the other pure sciences, which I perceived had nothing to contribute to the study of human behavior. However, as time passed, I found it increasingly difficult to avoid the pure sciences. This was driven by three factors which repeatedly emerged:
1. I realized that there were similar patterns in the lives my family, my clients and my life. I figured out that there was a bigger picture that I was missing.
2. I frequently met people who had evolved from, what society called, terrible experiences. But I realized that these same difficult situations had made these individuals wiser and stronger. I noticed though research on the workings of the human brain which suggested that we are wired for survival. This led me to wonder: ‘Why do we spend so much time focused on our losses and not equally on our gains?’
My Academic Influences
These insights led me to explore many leading-edge ideas that have appeared not just in psychology, but also in other sciences. It resulted in my intense study of three unique and yet surprisingly similar works. My first study began about 25 years ago with the work of Dr. William Glasser, the founder of Choice Theory, Reality Therapy and Lead Management.
Besides Albert Ellis, William Glasser, is most likely the only other living therapist whose model and approach to psychological intervention is recognized worldwide. What drew me to Glasser’s work were three-fold. The first was his perspective regarding the usefulness of many of the psychological labels. The second was his rejection of psycho-tropic medication, viewing them as merely masking the situation. And thirdly, his contention that everyone is a helper to others and thus everyone is involved in therapy of some form either with family, friends or paid professionals.
One of Glasser’s key contributions is his concept of “total behavior.” This concept expanded my understanding of human behavior. He concludes that each behavior has four components:
 What a person is doing with their body.
 What they are thinking in regards to the situation they are in, and simultaneously what they think about being in the situation.
 What feeling is generated by those actions and thinking.
 What physiological response is generated within the body.
This simple but powerful concept has been critical in assisting others to learn that they have ability to exercise self-control in ways they had not imagined. People readily take to the idea that they have choices about what they do, but it is more difficult to get them to consistently take control of their thinking in the same way. His simple and practical model proved useful in many contexts, however; it is only useful for part of the time or usually only for temporary periods.
This now led me to explore the field of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and the work of Dr. John Grinder and Dr. Richard Bandler. During Grinder and Bandler’s analysis of the work of Virgina Satir, Frederick Perls and Milton Erikson; they uncovered specific thought and language patterns which were unknown to these successful therapists. They found that these patterns were effective in encouraging people to adopt more useful actions and thinking. The tools developed from this field provided new avenues for my work on the thinking components of behavior. I also found that the power of the human imagination was reflected in the technology of neuro-linguistic programming. This then challenged me to believe that there were new tools to help people fix their thinking. As Bandler said, “The purpose of consciousness is to run your own brain.”
This technology undoubtedly has the value of showing people how to take control of their own thinking processes and thereby influence their feelings and their physiology. Yet an implicit aspect of NLP is the assumption that a person’s current behavior is bad, wrong, ineffective, unhealthy or dysfunctional. I then wondered that if this was so, why would they retain such behaviors? Originally my thought was that people didn’t know how to act or think differently or that they believed this change was not possible. I soon realized that people did not change the way they think or act because it served them in some way, but that they were not consciously aware of it.
Duality is Everywhere
So the next step in my journey was to find an explanation of why we would continue to choose what appeared to be painful behaviors in spite of having an awareness of the negative effect it was generating in our lives. It became apparent to me that pain served our lives in important ways. It reminded me of some of the old clichés that are found in most cultures which suggest a duality to things, events, relationships, etc. For example, “No kindness goes unpunished.” and “Every cloud has a silver lining.”
I began noticing this duality in many other areas such as in health and illness; in functional and dysfunctional relationships; in liberal and conservative political parties; in the rise and fall of the economy; in success and failure; in high and low self esteem; in good and bad etc.
There is a duality, a balance, and symmetry to many aspects of our existence that have been discovered and described by people in varied fields of study. This awareness led me to the work of a world renowned behavior specialist, philosopher and author Dr. John Demartini. His work uncovers the underlying laws of Nature, which most humans don’t recognize how to apply them to their lives. His work demonstrates the laws of symmetry and conservation in addition to others that apply to all aspects of human life.
Demartini has focused on many fields of study in order to collect the latest research findings which he then links to the laws of nature. His findings and work foreshadow some major shifts in the future of clinical psychology. He is among the people who are actively linking clinical psychology to other sciences like physics, biology and chemistry. In this endeavor, he has focused considerable attention on the laws of symmetry and conservation. He developed a tool which enables one to apply these laws to any human perception. This transforms one’s thinking to a state of both intellectual and emotional equilibrium. This transformation, of course, is the fundamental purpose of a significant portion of the clinical psychology field, particularly most therapeutic interventions.
The implications are quite remarkable for clinical psychology. For example, I have had the privilege of assisting individuals and groups to equilibrate such perceptions as: assault, addictions, ADHD, allergies, abuse, bankruptcy, bi-polar disorder, cancer, Crohn’s disease, death, depression, divorce, harassment, immunity diseases, cases of incest, injuries, job layoffs, motor vehicle accidents, PTSD, strikes and other traumatic events.
I have been a board certified psychologist for over 30 years. I was part of a team of psychologists that helped bring licensing legislation to our province back in the last century. I often refer to myself as a recovered psychologist meaning that I spent much of my professional life trying to fix people, but only to discover that they don’t need or want fixing. Instead they seek to uncover an understanding of the perfection of their life. I have the privilege of showing them how to achieve this. And I guarantee my work.
I offer you an unparalleled opportunity to uncover your own perfection. You will achieve this by resolving any incident of the past that prevents you from recognizing your special place in this universe and the privilege of being a part of it.
Currently I have a bustling private practice, in addition to presenting public seminars. It is through my conviction that I have the privilege of guaranteeing I can help you uncover the perfection of your life. I have the scientific tools and skills to prove and demonstrate it. Your heart knows the truth of your perfection, but your head challenges you to rediscover and affirm it in response to the perceptions and judgments of others. Once realized, this truth proves that we can have, do, or be whatever we choose in life if we are willing to work at it.
Like physicians who strive to restore balance to your physical body, I help restore mental balance. The difference is that I guarantee my results. If you are skeptical, that is a healthy sign and why I guarantee my work.
Every person, whatever their endeavor, are studying nature in some form and are seeking to uncover their intrinsic value and the perfection of their own life. The evidence of their perfection is demonstrated within nature’s laws. I have the honor of offering others the opportunity to prove and demonstrate to themselves there are no mistakes in their past. Every event, without exception, has contributed significantly to who you are, what you do, and what you have.
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